Archive for December, 2008


Wednesday, December 17th, 2008

Dear Logan,

Today, I woke up to the sound of you crying.  Your mom had watched as you turned around and took your first step all by yourself, and fell flat.  She was proud of you, but mad that she let you fall.  She was just too curious to see what you would do.  In your first 7 months, you haven’t shown much fear of anything so far.  Mostly just your grandparents. 🙂  But you got over that pretty fast.

Courage is an interesting word to try to define.  Here are some definitions that I found:

The Compact Oxford English Dictionary:

The ability to do something that frightens one.

Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary:

Mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty

Webster’s Revised Unabridged Dictionary:

That quality of mind which enables one to encounter danger and difficulties with firmness, or without fear, or fainting of heart; valor; boldness; resolution.

I like the first one the best.  It doesn’t waste words, and it captures the most important part of the definition; that you’re scared, but you do it anyway.  Webster’s Unabridged not only wasted the most words, it didn’t even get it right (“without fear”).  I think you have to have fear to have courage.  Courage is understanding what you’re afraid of, choosing to face the fear, and being prepared to accept the consequences of failing, in exchange for the chance at being rewarded.

It’s different from being “fearless”, which just means not being scared in the first place.  Fearlessness is stupid.  Fear is a healthy thing.  It will keep you alive, and help keep you from getting hurt.

So many people go through life without trying things because they’re too scared of what might happen, and they lack the self-confidence to face those fears.  I’m going to try hard to raise you to be courageous, and be smart.  I won’t always be there to catch you when you fall, but I promise to always be there to pick you right back up when you do.


Friday, December 5th, 2008

Dear Logan,

Ok, this is harder than I thought it would be!  Maybe once I get in the habit it won’t be, but clearly I’m not yet! 🙂

Playing with Grandpa In the past week, you’ve learned to pull yourself up and you waved at your mom for the first time.  “Walking” is all you like to do now, and you yell when nobody is walking you around the house.  Your tooth doesn’t seem to bother you any more, but you’re still a very needy sleeper.  From about 10-3, you don’t want to stay asleep unless you’re next to one of your parents.  At least we got you to stop nursing all night.  Baby steps…

Your grandparents came to vist you at Thanksgiving.  When they first got here, they were so excited to see you that they were a little aggressive.  You freaked out and were scared of them the whole first day!  But you warmed up to them fast, and you all had a great week.  You especially love playing with your grandpa.  We’re going to be burning a lot of jet fuel I think.

“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” — George Burns